How not to fall in love with your male best friend

Yes, it’s inevitable. You spend so much time together, you can talk about anything, and you know each other’s secrets. You buy each other things, “just because I know you’ll like that.” You’re always there for each other, and are in fact each other’s default dates to functions when you couldn’t get anyone else. Sooner or later, at least one of you would fall in love with the other.

We know it’s extremely difficult, especially when you really have so much fun together and—admit it—he’s attractive. But it is possible to not ever be romantically involved with your male friend. It is usually advisable to keep things that way, too. So here are a few tips to help prevent you from crossing the line.

1. Keep in mind that your best friend will always be your best friend. The “mind over matter” rule might still work for you, writes Anna Lorraine Miranda-baysa in “How Not To Fall In Love With Your Best Friend.” Forbid yourself from entertaining thoughts of your best friend being the man you’ve been waiting for, because you will eventually convince yourself that he is—even if he probably is not. Whenever your mind wanders dangerously close to that line, give yourself a good, firm shake.

2. Decide not to be attracted. In fact, try to feel embarrassed about even considering it. Of course you became friends because you saw a lot of great qualities in each other that made you click, that’s why it’s inevitable to feel attracted to each other. But to avoid falling for his great qualities, humorously think of his worst traits—especially the really weird and gross ones. It helps, says Anna, who has a male best friend herself.

"Know all the negative consequences falling in love would have on your precious friendship."

3. Avoid situations where you are left alone with each other, “as this allows a breeding place for passion.”

4. Know all the negative consequences falling in love would have on your precious friendship. Crossing the line could only bring disappointment for both of you and change your friendship forever. According to “Why You Shouldn’t Take The Next Step with Your Best Friend,” , whenever you feel yourself falling, ask yourself these questions: “Would he be a suitable match for me? Is there a future for us? Am I attracted to my best friend sexually? What are my real reasons? Am I afraid to be alone? Am I willing to risk losing the friendship?” Know that when you risk falling for a friend, you risk not just getting your heart broken but also ruining one of your most cherished friendships when things don’t work out.

5. Choose to love him as your best friend. Or as a brother, if you must. Know that you would be willing to do anything for him, care for him, and love him like a true brother, even if he’s not family. And be comforted that he would do the same for you. But decide not to throw romantic and sexual thoughts into the equation. “It’s a decision, not merely an emotion,” writes Anna. Appreciate that rare solid friendship you have formed with him and keep yourself from losing it just because of selfish, uncontrolled feelings.

Do you have a male best friend? How did you keep yourself from falling in love with him?

You are not satisfying me...

A lot of women experience anorgasmia and the sad thing is, they are more than willing to have “non-orgasmic sex” again because they don’t want to hurt their partner.

The dilemma, to tell or not to tell, is maybe as old as Mt. Mayon. Many will opt not to tell to avoid conflict. As a result, the sexual act will be routinary. The poor guy will just continue what he thought is gratifying for you and the unsatisfied girl will be compelled to just get it over and done with. Worse, it may cause suppressed resentment, which may lead to separation.

Why do we have to tell? Because men can be less sensitive of women’s sexual patterns. Not because they have no will, but because they are just unaware. Your genitals are totally dissimilar. So, do you really expect him to master your vagina? Your man might also be inexperienced, tired, or less adventurous. Others just emulate porn because they don’t have any other springboard. When the guy explodes, it’s done! And they can’t even tell if you had orgasm or not.

Also, you have to tell because it is your responsibility to be honest. A sound relationship’s foundation is trust and honesty. Making love issues are as major as faithfulness issues. Not saying it is a sin of omission. Not telling might result to subliminal distaste that will eventually affect your affection for him. You might end up waking up in the morning yearning for another guy.

A number of women just woke up in the morning yearning for another guy.

But surely he will be hurt? Yes I agree, especially guys take pride on their member’s power. Never ever tell him outright, “Hey, you lack sexual technique.” Never ever tell his friends or your friends that he sucked in bed. One way of dealing with this is to guide and encourage him but still giving him the total control over you. Give him soft moans when you’re enjoying, and react less when you are not. For example, you can moan, stroke John Smith when you’re liking it, and stop when you’re uncomfy. Lead his fingers to your sensitive spots. Proactively assume the position that you want. Say, “there,” “slowly,” “deeper,” “faster,” “don’t stop,” and “yes” (with full honesty). He might not get it immediately, but your efforts will have its rewards.

If you don’t wanna tell him, here’s one point of reflection. What if he does not enjoy making love with you, but does not want to hurt your feelings as well. And because he’s not telling, he will just sublimate his sexual desires to another person.

The upside of being single..

Feeling a little down in the dumps 'cause it's another lonely night? So you’ve noticed that you’re the only one in your circle of friends who isn’t attached, engaged, or married? Snap out of it! Being single is not a curse.

If you're already hearing yourself saying, "I NEED a boyfriend," you're virtually admitting that you are pathetic. Remember, it's a desperate woman's mantra. Wanting to be loved and to be in a relationship is just normal; but you have to realize that if you love yourself more, you will become a better person.

Being single affords each of us the opportunity to discover who we are, what we do and don't like, how we deal with things, what we want out of life, what our expectations are, what our potentials and limitations are, what energizes and empowers us, and what discourages and disappoints us.

If you learn to satisfy yourself and meet your needs, you would be able to share yourself to someone as a whole. Having someone else to fill in the gaps and trying to get from someone what is lacking in you could lead to disappointments and resentments.

Learn to love and accept yourself—just the way you are. Know that you’re worthy and deserving of only the best. Attracting love into your life starts by developing the attraction factor from the inside out.

There's no reason to feel pathetic if you’re living a fulfilling life. So, why not make the most of it? Sit back, have a soda, and try belching as loud as you can!

Would you go through Revirginization?

Being a woman is a herculean task; things become all the more difficult as she ages. Aside from the vicissitudes of a fast-paced life, women need to maintain their beauty. Women need to age with grace, remaining tasteful and extremely sexy. If not, they will be trapped in the four walls of insecurity, and lay in the bottomless pit of hopelessness. That’s why women engage in doctor shopping to buy back several youthful years. They have done this not only to feel good about themselves but also to please their partners.

Most women focus on their skin and face when trying to look young, but others focus on their vagina, too. Let’s talk about vaginal repair because you might need this someday. Vagina would get super stretched every time a baby is born. It was not a pleasant sight. Just imagine the size difference between an infant’s head and a penis. After several deliveries and a series of stressful expansion, the vaginal muscles can become loose and weak.

ome women resort to unconventional ways of regaining the tightness of their vagina and making it look young. One popular way is by using alum (tawas). Dissolving it in water to use as vaginal wash can temporarily tighten the vagina. However, it has the tendency to become too tight and dry, making intercourse painful.

Others use toothpaste and brandy to keep it fresh and youthful. It seems funny and surprising but women tend to do a lot of things—sometimes bordering on the outrageous—just to obtain the illusion of being a virgin again.

Kegel exercise, which involves contracting and relaxing the muscles of the pelvic floor, can also help strengthen vaginal muscles. But if you have been Kegling enough yet still feel a Rubik’s cube can get in, you may have to consider another option.

No worries, the vagina can now be repaired. There are procedures that address vaginal structural defects, aesthetic reconstruction, and tightening. It is done to repair defects or rejuvenate the vagina. Rejuvenating the vagina can help improve your sex life, as it enhances sexual experience, making the entrance of the penis very pleasurable. A word of caution: make sure you have this procedure done by a professional. Research on the doctors who do such procedures and ask about the “sexperiences” of those who’ve had it done. And it does not come cheap, mind you.

Since it is an elective surgery, it is not usually covered by insurance. Vaginoplasty (vaginal tightening) takes about an hour, and recovery takes about one to two weeks. The patient usually feels sore after. You may return to work the next day, but you shouldn’t engage in strenuous activities for four to six weeks.

There’s nothing wrong with going over the edge with vaginal repair. Defects of nature can be corrected after all. But you really have to prepare yourself, contemplate on the results, and talk to your partner before going through it.

Would you pose in the nude?

It's not unusual these days for some women to want their own nude photograph. After all, the human body has been artistically explored and exhibited for so long.

For some people, posing nude is a "tool of expression," a way to convey ideas. It also improves one's perception of his or her own body image.

'Think you can pose in the nude? In case you suddenly decide you'd want to, here are some tips you can try to ease the awkwardness.

1. Get someone you know to take your photo. This could be a close friend who doesn't even have to be a professional photographer. If you're lucky to be friends with a pro, then book him or her for your portrait.

2. Plan your preferred pose beforehand so you won't have to waste time experimenting while you're already naked. You can also practice this in the mirror so you can easily tell the photographer about your vision for the photo.

3. Shoot in your own space so you can be comfortable with the surroundings. If you plan on doing it in your house or room, tidy up your room, and change the bedsheets, curtains, and pillowcases.

4. Be confident. This is your nude photo and there's no pressure to be perfect. Your body is yours to love, and a nude photo should teach you to appreciate it more.

To lift or not to lift sagging breasts

When you look in the mirror one morning, you notice in horror that your breasts are sagging, pendulous, and have lost their shape. If one breast is lower than the other, maybe your husband is not ambidextrous. But if your nipples and areolae are pointing downward, Houston we have a problem!

A woman’s breasts can change over time, losing their shape and firmness due to aging, breastfeeding, weight changes, gravity, and pregnancy. That is why some resort to mastopexy, or breast lift, in simple terms. By removing excess skin, tightening the surrounding tissue, and lifting the underlying breast tissue, the surgical procedure reshapes and improves breast contour. This can rejuvenate the breast profile and make it look youthful again. Mastopexy is different from breast augmentation or reduction since breast lifting does not significantly change your breast size.

After the lifting and reshaping process, the nipples and areolae are repositioned to a natural and more youthful height. If necessary, enlarged areolas are reduced by excising the skin perimeter, removing excess skin.

The best candidates for this procedure are women who are healthy and have a stable weight, are non-smokers, and of course, who can afford it. No absolute contraindications exist for breast lifting. Yet one relative contraindication is future pregnancy because of lactation complications.

Before the surgery, consider these things: choice of a surgeon you can trust and who adheres to a strict code of ethics, your general health status, your expectations and desired outcome. The type of incision should also be considered. You should ask what kind of anesthesia will be used because this substance might cause forgetfulness. Would you want that after surgery, you have nice firm breasts but can’t remember your husband’s name?

Getting mastopexy is a personal choice. If you think it will help boost your self-esteem, then go for it. But remember, medicine and surgery are not an exact science. While everybody hopes for the best, there is no guarantee. There are risks and possible complications like unfavorable scarring, infection, changes in nipple sensation, damage to deeper structures, persistent pain, and possible revisional surgery. We have not even mentioned yet the normal course of treatment, wherein there are post-operative medications and the need to wear bandages that bring huge discomfort. It is also worth noting that effects of gravity and aging will persist and sagging may gradually recur over time.

As early as now, we should accept that we shall grow old and beauty will wither. But age with grace; after all, it is not the destination—it’s the journey that matters most.

The truth about unsafe sex

Sex can be so pleasurable, exciting, and worth longing for. But before you engage in it, ask yourself, “If this sexual episode will be published in the newspapers tomorrow, will I be proud and happy? Or maybe sorry and sad?” Remember, every sexual act is a new and different scenario. You might be doing safe sex for five years, but one ordinary “not so safe orgasmic encounter” might change everything.

Unsafe sex is anything that will place an individual at RISK, may it be your health due to STD, your reputation, your relationship, and your sanity (for most). But these are just immediate effects. It can be cured by antibiotics, gossip mongering will have a natural death, new love can be found, and temporary insanity will cease. But really, the longstanding aftermath is depression, and the permanent change that will transpire in your personhood. It would be very difficult to repair tarnished self-esteem. Instead of laddering up with your career, it will thwart growth a little bit since you will spend your time recuperating from a disaster. One got pregnant, her lover left her, and her husband filed for a divorce. Instead of shopping for your favorite perfume, there you are in the drugstore asking for a better pill for your infection. Life itself is already complicated, and you don’t need another BS, just because you had one risky sex.

As a responsible woman, before doing it, STOP and THINK. Not too obvious though that might ruin the moment. You might also want learn diplomacy skills in communicating to your partner that “YOU CAN’T DO IT RIGHT NOW” cause it’s unsafe. You have to make them realize that you are not rejecting the person, but the act itself can be done in a more responsible way.

Want to make him hot for you?

Heighten your guys's sexual urges with any of these foolproof sensual moves he'll surely never forget!


1. Instead of moaning loudly, try longer and softer moans.
Guys love to be worshipped-play to his ego and let him know he's doing all the fight things and hitting all the right spots whisper his name into his ear from time to time and you'll surely feel him get together.


2. Rub warm oil all over his body.
Not only will this awaken his tactile sense, but the feel of smooth, wet sliding bodies rubbing against each other make for fun play, too.


3. Do all things at once.
Pull his hair and nibble his neck while playing with his nip with your hand. Multiple pressure points turned ob at the same time will send him into an intense titillation.

4 Be the dominatrix.
Oust him hard against the wall or onto the bed and let him know what's coming to him. Blindfold him and hold his wrists down and show him who the boss is.

5 Suit him with PREMIERE Ultra Thin condom using your mouth.
Let him tingle and indulge into the intense sensation of his Royal Dynasty in your mouth. slide it on smoothly. With the thinness of the condom, he will feel as if nothing is there, securing you a wild moan for a "job" well done.

6 Round two with PREMIERE Dotted condom.
Great jobs certainly deserve a follow up. Make it more sensual by suing this Condom variant. Ironically, these dots will make for a smooth and "explosive” ride a definite knockout.



source:

madam shec
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