Are you a sex addict?

Or is your partner a sex addict? I have heard some women complain that their husbands just can’t get enough, to the point that their vagina already gets swollen. Which leaves me wondering if these guys might be sex addicts.

Sexual addiction is the uncontrollable urge to engage in sexual activity. It can be with a partner or through viewing pornography, masturbation, visiting CSWs (commercial sex workers), among other sexual activities. Some people are not aware that they are sex addicts because their lifestyle is not affected glaringly; yet addiction can affect the productivity and relationships of some.

The dynamics of sexual addiction which is similar to one’s dependence on alcohol or illegal drugs. During sex, the body releases a powerful concoction of chemical substances that cause euphoria. The body gets used to these chemicals, similar to what happens with any other addictive substances, and the person ends up craving for more to consistently achieve the same effect. As a result, he or she will engage in any sexual activity no matter what it takes.

Sex addicts have high and low points. Sometimes they are elated, sometimes they are melancholic. They could also feel remorse, regret, anxiety, and isolation. Unfortunately, these people feel helpless and unable to change, and they believe that sex is their only escape.

How do you know if you or your partner is a sex addict? Go over this checklist of characteristics:

* Unable to decrease sexual activity in spite of knowing the consequences.
* Neglects important social, occupational, or recreational activities in favor of sexual behavior.
* Spends too much time and money planning and engaging in sexual activities.
* Suffers from intense mood swings when sexual desires are unfulfilled.
* Uses sexual fantasies or activities as a way of coping with stressful situations.

The first step to treating sexual addiction is acknowledging that you are indeed addicted. You have to accept that this disruptive behavior affects your everyday life. No one can recuperate from a problem without first acknowledging it and taking full responsibility for the recovery. Seek the help of professionals because they understand the situation better and can help you take specific steps toward a healthier sexual lifestyle.

If you suspect that your partner is a sex addict, talk to him. Get a specialist to help him deal with the actual addiction. A counselor can also help you go through challenges as a couple while he is undergoing treatment. It may be painful for both of you, but remember that sexual addiction will have longstanding effects if it remains unchecked.