If you subscribe to the notion that men have an immense appetite for sex, it’s easy to fall under the impression that our bedroom standards are not up to par with those of women, says Mikey Agulto, staff writer forFHM.com.ph. “It is partly accurate,” he says. “Men can indeed be one-dimensional at times, but note that we still have our particular preferences. As easy it is to arouse us, it would take an enormous amount of sexy-time know-how to get our true-blue satisfaction. Girls, please please us?”
When asked how a woman could do just that, he listed 12 tried-and-true tips for becoming your guy’s sexual superstar. Read his advice below.
1. ENTHUSIASM CAN GO A LONG WAY.
It’s rare to ever hear a man say no to sexy-time, but then again, the initiation almost never comes from a woman. An invitation for sex coming from a girl is, in itself, a big privilege for us guys, and it gets our bedroom juices flowing. You’ll be surprised at how rarely these kinds of things happen. Switch it up by playing the role of sex instigator.
2. ENGAGE IN SEX BARTERING.
Know that you can gain something out of being a man-pleaser. Try entertaining the idea of sex bartering by making your man do any errand for you in exchange for a sexual act. Have him earn five minutes of dry humping for taking out the trash, or exchange a mind-blowing blowjob in the kitchen for fixing the sink. According toGQ correspondent and sex barter practitioner Kelly Oxford, “The negotiation process quickly becomes its own thrill. This is fun for her too.” Remember, we won’t say no to sexy time!
3. HAVE PHONE SEX.
It’s okay—it sounds corny to us too. But men are natural sexual beasts. Try phoning him up when he least expects it, breathing your sexiest moan into the receiver, promising him a night he’ll never forget, then hanging up to seal the mystery. Leaving the possibilities to his imagination will blow a guy’s mind. He’ll come running in your direction, if he hasn’t already blown his load on the way. (It happens, and when it does, have a little patience, please!)
4. MOANING IS EVERYTHING.
It’s understandable that some women may find it hard to express their feelings during intercourse, but here’s a little secret for you—hearing you moan, especially when it’s done passionately, is one of the biggest pleasures a man will ever get out of sex. It’ll take a bit of exertion since many girls find it over the top, but hearing a woman moan from delight can only affirm that we’re doing it right.
5. SAY MY NAME, SAY MY NAME!
Hearing a woman say and shout our name during intercourse allows us to feel superior and in control, which boosts our bedroom confidence. Stimulation also comes in the form of sound, which also explains the sexual significance of moaning, which we mentioned earlier. Sex makes us feel manlier than ever, and it pleases us to see our ladylove share the same sentiment.
6. TRIM IT UP.
No one ever bothered to pay any explanation for it, but guys get really pumped up at the presence of a shaved (or waxed, as many ladies now prefer) bit. Blame it on the fact that a man gets more stimulated by what he sees rather than by what he feels, which in this case is a clearer view of a woman’s privates. All we know is it’s quite the oral sex magnet. Women may find it a fantastic incentive to get their guys orally inclined since there would be so much more to kiss, nuzzle, and lick. All in all, a win-win situation!
7. BE SPONTANEOUS—SURPRISE HIM.
In the book What Men Don’t Want Women to Know, the Smith & Doe staff writes, “There is nothing in this world a man treasures more than an unforgettable, torridly sexy, one-nighter.” Maybe that’s a little specific, but what we think it means is men are always gunning for the sure-fire combination of spontaneity and sex. Try an out-of-the-blue foreplay session without locking the door while your parents are in the next room. Or maybe you can try giving him oral sex while he’s in the shower. It’s always easier said than done, but it’s worth trying at least once or twice.
8. GIVE MORE, NOT LESS.
Most men tend to worry about whether they should let the woman finish first during sex, which indeed should be the case. However, several sexual positions may get compromised—the full mast, the lotus, and the cowgirl are some of the most pleasurable positions for a man, but they require the woman to do just about all the work. So if you can help it, try going the extra mile every once in a while. Trust us, we’ll never forget it.
9. TRIGGER HIS PLEASURE POINTS.
The male body is definitely a hotbed of feel-good zones, some of which he may not be even aware of. There are actually nine of them: the outside of his lower lip, the front of his neck, his nipples, the dip under his ankle, his shaft, the head of his penis, the seam of his testicles, his frenulum, and, most especially, his perineum. Manhandle these parts with passion, and he’ll finally understand why girls think foreplay is so much better.
10. GIVE HIM AN OPTION.
Men have a number of preferences when it comes to being pleasured—the kind of womanly grip he’d like when it comes to a hand job, where he is inclined to blow his load when he finally ejaculates, and so on. As we mentioned earlier, a man is very easy to stimulate visually, so letting him watch you as you do wicked things to him often amps up the pleasure. And allowing him the privilege of choosing where he wants to come is as big a delight for him as the actual sensation of ejaculation.
11. SWALLOW!
According to American sexologist , swallowing and ingesting a man’s semen will provide you with vitamins, minerals, nutrients, and proteins. He adds, “Women whose partners came inside them tended to rate themselves as happier than women who don’t. This likely has to do with the extra testosterone and hormone boost that a little man juice can offer females.” Trust us, swallowing is the ultimate form of sexual flattery.
12. WAKE-UP CALL.
According to Martha Cornog’sThe Big Book of Masturbation, the act of ejaculation serves as a natural sleep sedative, which means that men tend to feel drowsy after a round of intercourse. If you want to keep the bedroom romance going, try giving your man a blowjob while he’s fast asleep. Do it fast and hard until he wakes up. In fact, if you’re both up for it, you can engage him in unsolicited oral sex every morning. He (and his manhood) will be up in no time!
